While reading these feminists’ works, sometimes I feel guilty towards men. When feminists encourage women to do whatever we want, to liberate ourselves from roles set for us by society, and require respect from male in lots of issues, have we caused any unfair problem to men? We say we can do everything while they are whom fight and died in the battle, and we say we are equal to them but why we still require so-called gentlemanliness from them.
So I inquired three boys, 2 Chinese and 1 Korean, separately about how do they think about feminism and do they sometimes find anything unfair to male? Astonishingly, their answers were almost the same; all of them tried to explain why physical conditions have determined men are stronger than women since human ever existed on the Earth, why it is important for women to get married and give birth to children, and when I said I may never want to get married, they said:”you are such a boy!” However, one of them did say that he sometimes felt unfair because he was raised up being told that he is responsible to his family, to his future wife, and to a lot of things that women do not need to care. I was angry, not because their opinions about women’s role, but because when I tried to illustrate why pornography is kind of objectifying women, how can pregnancy disturb female teenagers‘ lives (according to this, one of them said pregnant women can simply choose abortion while having no idea about how harmful is abortion to woman’s body), and so on, I can not clearly tell them why feminism is important and why work outside home makes much difference to women’s lives. Is this kind of “The Problem That Has No Name”?
It seems still a long way to go.
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